let us all learn how to take a compliment and take in love

i think people could learn how to take a compliment. compliments are sincere, heartfelt words given by another human being with feelings. have you noticed how infrequently compliments are given? and even less, received. many of us receive a compliment and brush it off. we can’t possibly agree with whatever good thing they have to say about us. but let’s look at it from the other end. the person giving you the compliment. they took a step out toward you. they felt strongly enough about something about you to let you know. they wanted to see your eyes and your reaction when they told you how beautiful you looked, how you responded well in a difficult situation, or how much they like your laugh. then what? you shut them down. you tell them that they’re wrong for loving whatever part of you. this leaves everyone feeling unsatisfied. you hate being complimented for whatever reason and now this person might be less likely to want to compliment someone again because they’ll probably be met with the same resistance. it’s difficult enough to let love out, take a breath and let their love in. accept that they love this seemingly unlovable portion of yourself and respond graciously in return. we’ve all been on both sides of this type of conversation. let’s all contribute to future conversations going better by giving more compliments and practicing the habit of taking in the love.

how many rainbows have you seen in your life?

11 And I will establish my covenant with you, neither shall all flesh be cut off any more by the waters of a flood; neither shall there any more be a flood to destroy the earth.

12 And God said, This is the token of the covenant which I make between me and you and every living creature that is with you, for perpetual generations:

13 I do set my bow in the cloud, and it shall be for a token of a covenant between me and the earth.

14 And it shall come to pass, when I bring a cloud over the earth, that the bow shall be seen in the cloud:

15 And I will remember my covenant, which is between me and you and every living creature of all flesh; and the waters shall no more become a flood to destroy all flesh.

16 And the bow shall be in the cloud; and I will look upon it, that I may remember the everlasting covenant between God and every living creature of all flesh that is upon the earth.

On the day I was born, September 13, 1991, there was a double rainbow in Iowa City. That’s pretty cool. But it gets better. Until a year and a half ago I was running away from God. I didn’t care about who he was or what He had to teach me. I was living with unending sadness overflowing out of me and I had come to a point in my life where I was content with that as my fate. I was destined to be a sad soul forever. God absolutely had something better for me. He plucked me up and renewed and redeemed all of me. 

But this verse. WOW. Genesis 9:13. My birthday: 09/13/1991. Okay totally serendipitous, but wonderful. God placed those twin bows above me the day I was born. He was promising to me from the beginning that I would be His. Better yet, each time it rains and that beautifully colored bow is lit above us let us remember; God has the power to do it all again. He has the authority to begin again. But that is not what His heart wants. He wants us to see His promise, His love, and His mercy in each rainbow.


I am so proud to stand by his side, or be in his arms.

I am so proud to stand by his side, or be in his arms.

I’m going to tell you about my friend, my bowling partner, my beautiful pal: Morgan. When I tell her that I wrote a blog post about her she’s going to tell me that it makes her nervous and that she feels like she’s going to throw up. Then she’ll laugh. She has the best laugh. It’s really big and joyful. That’s probably one of the things I like most about her. Even when we’re driving to get her car out of the impound lot for the seventh time and she remembers that she forgot her keys and she is covered in cupcake batter and wants to cry and vomit all at the same time, she can still laugh. I love her. She’s served as such an encouragement in my life and Fayetteville is in for a treat. Can’t wait to be neighbors in Asia.

I miss you already. Hang loose, babe.

"How would you ever learn unconditional love if you were married to someone who met all the conditions? How would you ever learn mercy, patience, longsuffering, heartfelt compassion if you were married to someone who never failed you, who was never difficult with you, who never sinned against you, who was never slow to acknowledge their sin or ask for forgiveness? How would you ever learn grace to pour out your favor on someone who did not deserve it if you were married to someone who was always deserving of all good things? The main purpose of marriage is that, through your marriage, you become conformed to the image of Jesus Christ. Marriage, I believe, is the greatest instrument of sanctification."
- Paul Washer (via godmoves)

(Source: universe-boots, via bloodsavedus)